Women are truly enigmatic creatures. It can take most of us the best part of a lifetime, or even all of it, to truly understand them, including their wants, needs, desires, and hopes. A lot of confusion and delusion shrouds the topic of a woman’s character, for a couple of key reasons.
First off, while women are certainly more in touch with their own and their partners’ emotions, they are prone to hiding their feelings. They are more likely to keep their significant another guessing, instead of telling them something outright, because what they seek is a commitment and willingness to listen and understand. There is nothing inherently wrong with this, but it does make it more difficult to comprehend a woman.
Secondly, mass media has played a significant role in distorting our perceptions of women. For the most part, it oversimplifies a woman’s approach towards relationships, mostly focusing on physical attraction.
It can be easy to assume that spending most of the day in a gym is what a woman seeks, but it would be a flawed assumption indeed. The reality is that a woman’s character is far more nuanced, and it takes patience and understanding on your part to make your interactions and relationships with women succeed.
Now that we have ascertained the obstacles that prevent us men from understanding women and the qualities that are required to do so, it becomes clear that there are a set of principles and qualities that we can adapt to attain healthier and more meaningful relationships.
Therefore, without further ado, here are ten qualities that a woman looks for in a guy.
Kindness is an underrated ability, and it means a lot to a woman. Yes, it’s true that you will hear a lot about how women are into “bad guys” and try to avoid “nice guys.” However, that is merely a part of the mass media’s influence upon us.
Think about it; would you rather than your best friend is completely selfish and not care about you? Of course not. It does not make sense to be callous in your dealings with your significant other, someone who is closer to you than your best friend.
TLDR; be kind to someone if you are really in love with them, and want to make this a mutual feeling. It won’t cost you a penny, but it will go a long way in improving your relationship.
Women seek a man who they can depend on. Now, that does not mean that you strive to be a perfectionist. What it does mean is that you should make a concerted effort to honor whatever commitments you make and fulfill your responsibilities, even if it is something as simple as picking up a carton of milk on your way home from the office.
There is nothing amazing for a woman than a man who is aware of her wants and needs and attempts to do everything possible to satisfy her. Try to be a reliable and responsible man.
According to a poll conducted by Men’s Health, almost 84% of women stated that one of the most outstanding qualities in a man is faithfulness. Women love to be treated like queens, and while you aren’t expected to wait on her hand and foot, you are certainly expected to let her know that she is the most beautiful woman you have ever set eyes on, and there is no way you would ever think otherwise. There is no better way to come across as a confident man, and this, in turn, will instill confidence in your girl.
Sense of humor
Ever had the impulse to make a woman laugh? I bet you did, and there is perhaps a reason why most of us do it. Women love a man who can make them laugh, because not only is that indicative of social awareness and intelligence, it also denotes that you can laugh away all of life’s difficulties and stresses. Isn’t that the surest sign of your emotional stability and quiet confidence, which in turn is the biggest turn-on for a woman?
Honesty and trustworthiness
You could be the man of someone’s dreams, but if you can’t be honest and attempt to construct a relationship based on lies, you are in for a rough ride. Simply put, there is no reason why anyone, let alone a woman, should trust you if you can’t be sincere with them. This ties perfectly with the dependability point because the man who is dishonest is by definition unreliable.
Stephen Covey puts it brilliantly when he explains that most of us, in our conversations with each other, merely hear instead of listening. To listen to means to patiently expend both time and energy in letting a person reveal his/her feelings. There is no need to come up with quick fixes or relate with you girl. All you have to is to allow her to spill it all out, and empathize with her.
The key takeaway is this: women don’t necessarily want you to solve their problems, but they DO want you to listen to their problems and understand what they are going through.
Being passionate about something
You can also call this your drive. Something that compels you to get out of bed every morning and get excited. This could be anything from flipping burgers to playing football; as long as you are a man on a mission, you can be sure that there is at least one woman out there who is seriously impressed.
Women like to be taken by surprise, and that is a huge component of romantic behavior. Many girls grow up fantasizing about being swept away from their feet by the man of their dreams, and while this certainly sounds cheesy, all you have to remember is that a woman likes a man who is spontaneous. Try to do little things that are guaranteed melt her heart, like giving her a box of chocolates or making a mix tape for her.
Fitness and health
A man who keeps himself in shape and makes an effort to be healthy is sure to win over a woman. You don’t need a six-pack, but there is no reason why you shouldn’t try to be as active as possible.
It is all about confidence. You could be afflicted by a multitude of flaws, but if you carry yourself like a man who is out there to conquer the world, you can be sure to catch a senorita’s attention. And maybe her heart as well.