Jealously is a natural feeling that everyone feels in a romantic relationship. But even though it is natural to feel this way at times, it is not normal to let it rule your life and ruin your relationship. The trick to getting over being jealous is not giving it life and it will die down.
Because if you give into any jealous notions, you will certainly face the consequences and one of those consequences might be losing your partner.
Here is some advice on how to ward off jealously and spark in relationship:
Be Rational
When you’re jealous, it is because you see a potential threat to your relationship, whether it’s there or not. You need to approach these thoughts rationally so that you don’t jump to conclusions.
Try to get a feel if the treat is actually something real or just something you are imagining. When you are seeing the world through jealous eyes, you tend to blow things out of proportion and are quick to make small things into bigger matters.
You will have to think with a rational mind and step back and look at the situation from a new view to see if it’s real or not.
More than likely, you will realize it is something that you’re imagining and you have nothing to worry about.
Improved Self-Esteem
One reason you might be jealous is because you are insecure about yourself and have low self-esteem. You will feel more confident about your relationship if you thought more of your self.
You’ll feel less worried about threats from outside parties if you had better self-esteem because you will realize that you are just as good as anyone else and you deserve the love of your partner.
You can start slow by just eliminating negative thoughts about yourself and really focus on your strengths and what makes you unique. Once you feel better about yourself, you will then feel better about your relationship.
Patience
If you are dealing with a partner that’s really jealous, just be patient and give them lots of reassurance that there’s nothing for them to worry about.
If there are certain triggers that cause your partner to be jealous then try to avoid those triggers. Know that even though they may be acting out of the ordinary, jealousy come out of love, so remember that they really love you when they’re being super jealous.
Just continue to reassure them rather than being defensive, which might egg them on more.
Don’t Compare
If your partner has friends of the opposite sex, do not compare yourself to them no matter how hard it is to not do it.
And do not compare yourself others you see in public because you have to be confident that your partner loves you for you and wouldn’t be with you if they didn’t love you.
You will have to snap out if it. And don’t compare yourself to any of their exes.
They broke up with them for a reason and do not bring up the past unless you want to start a fight and potentially lose your partner.
Know That Jealously Can Make Things Worse
When you are jealous, you can really ruin a good thing that you have with a partner even though you’re not trying to.
Jealousy in a relationship can really make things worse, especially if it makes you change the way you act when you’re with them.
Stop trying to ruin a perfectly good thing with negative thoughts and always stay positive.
Communicate With Your Partner
If you feel jealous for any particular reason, communicate this feeling with your partner. Remember clear and open communication is key and talk to your partner about why you are feeling jealous.
Express your needs and feelings as to certain emotions or things that have been bugging you, which have fueled your jealous inclinations.
And remember to be a peacemaker and try to find a solution. Do not try and accuse your partner of anything if you have no hard evidence or proof.
Find a solution instead and move forward so that you two can continue to be happy together.
Work At Warding Off Jealously
Jealously can sometimes just be a trait or characteristic of some rather than just a temporary frame of mind or emotion. So getting rid of it will require work, patience, self-reflection and persistence.
Talk to other to help you get through whatever ordeal you have to conquer so that you are not jealous anymore. Or, seek professional help if you cannot do it alone.
But make sure that you work each day at it and try to be rational and level headed as much as possible.
When you can finally ward of being jealous, you will have better relationships and you will be jealousy free for the rest of your life, so it is worth the work and effort to overcome.
Think Positive Thoughts
Whenever you feel pangs of jealous come over you, think about something positive or happy with your partner. You will come to the realization that your partner loves you and would not hurt you.
This will give you the boost in confidence you need about your relationship so that you can come down and let that wave of jealously pass.
Call A Friend
It often helps to get a reality check from a third party. Explain to them the situation and why you are feeling jealous and more than likely, they will tell you that you are imagining it.
It often helps talking it out with someone else who can help you see things a bit clearer.
Just Let It Go
Sometimes you just have to let it go. Jealousy is hard work and it can really make you go crazy. You will start to do things you would not normally do and you will hate yourself of it later.
Do not let jealousy get the best of you and just let it go. You will save yourself a lot of time and headaches if you do not give into your jealous notions.
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